Save My Marriage

I Messed Up, Now I Want My Marriage Back

6 Ways to Save your Marriage

Did you make a mistake that hurt your spouse and now all you want is to save your marriage? You may be beating yourself and feeling like the end of all things are near, how could your spouse ever forgive you? Will they ever trust you again? How can you get them to stay and give the marriage another shot? These are common thoughts and fears of the partner who messed up. They know they were in the wrong and they don’t believe they deserve that second chance. They know it and they are sure their spouse knows it. Yet, love can conquer all. If you love your spouse and they love you, the road to redemption won’t be as long as you may believe.

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Cleaning Up the Mess: Save your Marriage in 6 Simple Steps

• Fess up – the first thing you must do is be absolutely truthful with your spouse. It doesn’t matter if you think it will cause them more pain, if they have made it clear that it will bring them peace of mind. Being honest with them now will gain their respect and start you off with a clean slate.
• Give your spouse space and time, if they ask for it – when someone is hurting, it isn’t uncommon for them to want time to think things over. Though this may frighten you, you must allow your spouse this time to him or herself. It will be healthy for both of you, as they will get to make up their own mind but you will contribute to their thoughts by letting them know you are still there and want to be.
• Apologize – After all you’ve done, whatever you’ve done, it is essential that you make it known that you are sorry. You hurt your spouse and the apology may seem like mere words to you, but if it is sincere they will see that, and they’ll appreciate it.
• Forgive yourself – whether or not your spouse forgives you, you must forgive yourself. You are human and every human makes mistakes of some form. Take responsibility for your choices, but don’t beat yourself up forever. Don’t allow your spouse to beat you up about it forever either. This is a huge contributor to divorce after affairs and other marital mistakes.
• Don’t repeat your mistakes – your honesty, apology and efforts will all be meaningless if you don’t exhibit a genuine change to your spouse. A first and even a second offense can often be forgiven, but when a spouse begins repeating the same mistakes it shows a lack of respect for the marriage, and it certainly won’t save your marriage.
• Move on with your marriage – Once you and your spouse have reconcile, the best thing you can do for your marriage is focus on it and not on the problem that almost destroyed it.

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Forgiveness is necessary after hurting your spouse, both from them and of yourself. It’s also more natural to be forgiven than many realize, which is unfortunate. Some couples fail to save their marriage simply because they can’t move on from a past hurt and they choose not to forgive. When forgiveness is involved there is a real opportunity to save your marriage!